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Little Lady Lost – Chasing the Wrong Things

November 25, 2011 Leave a comment Go to comments

I follow Positive Outlooks on Facebook, and tonight (Thanksgiving night) this particular post struck a chord with me.

The search for Lady over this past week has often felt like a chase. Every sighting has meant a quick jump in the car and a race to the location in hopes of finally bringing her home. When the outcome did not lead to the happy ending that I so very much desired, it was quite disappointing. I know many of you have felt that way because you have been out there searching too.

In some ways, I have been chasing the wrong things. My fear that I might miss that one clue or that one lead, or that I might miss that one chance to see Lady myself, led me to near exhaustion and a bit of craziness. The fear that I might be home sleeping or out on a walk when I could have been there at that exact moment she appeared was driving me crazy. Yes, there are volunteers out there searching when I am not. Yes, I know that people have seen the fliers and the signs and have read Lady’s story and are looking too, but somehow I felt that I needed to be the one person who was always out there looking for her. Somehow I thought that if I were out there she would just miraculously appear – for me. Silly huh? The mind does crazy things to you sometimes.

So, the last two days I have taken a step back from the search and disconnected. I took the dogs to the dog park. I worked for a bit. I actually had a real conversation with some friends. Uninterrupted. I had Thanksgiving dinner with my family and I played ball with Jasper and gave Daisy a belly rub. Along the way, I began to realize that I cannot be everywhere at once. I cannot make Lady come to me by sheer will or by constantly chasing after her.

That doesn’t mean I am not still looking. I was out with Estelle and Susan from Minnesota Sheltie Rescue this evening checking traps (according to Estelle, there is one very pissed off cat out there tonight) and leaving behind treats and things that smell like me. I put a few fliers in mailboxes too. But, I did not drive around for hours on end, searching every little corner of Eagan, nor did I stake out a location in hopes that Lady would appear just because I was there. The truth is that no one knows what will be the one thing that brings her home. What I do know is that chasing the wrong things is not going to bring Lady home any sooner.

So maybe if I stop chasing the wrong things and instead focus on the right things – spreading the word, sharing her story, handing out fliers (with the help from friends and volunteers), I can let Lady catch me on her own terms and in her own way.

One can hope. 🙂

Update: Today we had no sightings at all, but in some ways that is comforting. It means Lady is not crossing busy streets. She’s not putting her life in danger. It likely means she’s hunkered down somewhere and staying where she is – for now. And even though we had no sightings, does not mean that people were not our looking for her. There were volunteers and staff from Minnesota Sheltie Rescue, Lady’s former foster mom, Dawn, and a client, Renee, and a reader, Jess, and many, many others. There were also the prayers of so many people. I still believe that those prayers will make the difference.

Tomorrow, we will be out canvasing the area again with more volunteers. We hope that we can zero in on her location or at least pass out more fliers in a much wider area to increase the chances that someone will see her.

How you can help:

Our MNSR FOSTER SHELTIE, Lady, is still LOST in EAGAN, MN. Call 612-616-7477 with any sightings (even if not recently). Program these numbers into your cell as you drive the area, in case you spot Lady. Please give time, exact location of sighting, and the direction the dog headed. DO NOT follow her, try to catch her or call out to her – this will spook her from the area and may cause her to run onto a busy road.

Possible sightings as recently as 11/22 near Pilot Knob Road; Duckwood, Kingswood Pond neighborhood, CrestRidge Lane and Denmark; Crestview and Duckwood; Monterey and Blackhawk Road, and possibly even Rosemount. Sighting/search info is available by visiting Minnesota Sheltie Rescue on Facebook and at our map.

We have distributed approximately 4000 flyers, put up signs, alerted police, impound, vet clinics, area businesses and colleges, the school bus company, city of Eagan, Eagan Chamber of commerce, used Robo-calls, posted online, cross-posted to other rescues, on Facebook, etc.-everything in our Lost Sheltie search tips. Live traps are set in areas where we think she may be holed up, and we respond to every possible sighting.

Contact us if you have a spare hour to do flyers. Sighting/search info here. It is not uncommon for some time to go by before we are successful, but we do not give up!

Minnesota Sheltie Rescue

Here are some additional photos of Lady.

You can read more about the search for Lady and how she was found in the posts listed below.

Post #1: The search for Lady, my foster dog. How you can help.

Post #2:Foster Dog Lady – Still Missing

Post #3: Little Lady Lost – The Latest

Post #4: Thanksgiving Gratitude Despite Little Lady Still Being Lost

Post #5 (This Post): Little Lady Lost – Chasing the Wrong Things

Post #6: A Sunbeam of Hope? The Latest on Little Lady Lost

Post #7: Little Lady Lost – The Saturday Update

Post #8: Little Lady Lost – Latest Update & Do’s and Don’ts

Post #9: Little Lady Lost – A sense of peace

Post #10: Little Lady Lost – HOME AT LAST!

Post #11: Little Lady Lost and How She Made It Home Again

  1. November 25, 2011 at 12:43 AM

    Mel – Lady seems so friendly and happy, I find it difficult to believe that she is afraid of people, but I don’t doubt what you say is true. She seems so trusting. Anyway, I am still praying for her, you and all that are out searching for her and any other lost pets that are out there trying to find their way home.

    Continued good luck finding Lady and bringing her home.


  2. Susanne Oakley
    November 25, 2011 at 2:48 AM

    I think you are on the right track now Mel, and I think that is a great saying. I had lost another pet years back and I can really relate what you have been doing to yourself as I was the same way. We just love them so and worry that they are all right we make ourselves sick. So, I am glad to hear you are stepping back and I feel that is will have a good outcome and Lady will be back in your life, but sometimes not as soon as we want. Take care of yourself, I think Lady is doing the same but just isn’t sure how to get back to you…yet.

    • Mel
      November 25, 2011 at 11:45 AM

      Thank you Susanne. I think I am on the right track now too. I hope and pray Lady comes home soon, but realize that this will happen on her time, not mine.

  3. November 25, 2011 at 5:55 AM

    Thank you for sharing the lessons you are learning with us. They can apply in so many other situations as well.

    It’s also good that you’re giving yourself time to recoup from the efforts because it means you’re trusting others to really help you. And that makes them feel good too, I’m sure.

    There will probably be a lot of people out shopping today. I hope they pay attention to your posters and can spot your girl.

    • Mel
      November 25, 2011 at 11:43 AM

      Thank you Pamela. I think this has been a learning experience that I won’t soon forget. Among the many lessons I have learned is that asking for help is okay. I don’t have to do it all by myself. A valuable lesson indeed.

  4. November 25, 2011 at 7:12 AM

    I am the type of person who wants what I want and I want it now. The hardest thing for me is to do nothing and trust that the universe will give back, but that is a lesson I have learned. So many times the universe knows better than me. 🙂

    Maybe Lady is trying to find her way home and when she sees a person she changes direction to avoid that. She will find her way back to you, just keep the faith.

    Thank you for keeping us posted in the search, so many are praying and hoping with you.

    • Mel
      November 25, 2011 at 11:42 AM

      I’m that type of person too Jodi. I think letting go and letting whatever is meant to be happen as it is meant to is something I have struggled with as well. So many times in the past things have worked out better than I thought they could, but it took me letting go first. Thank you for your prayers and hopes.

  5. Candace
    November 25, 2011 at 7:21 AM

    Maybe this is Ladys’ life journey, maybe she was supposed to experience this even though we all feel scared for her and want her to be safe at home with you. Maybe she needed to learn these skills before she returned to a life with humans. But it would be so nice if she decided she has had enough and goes back to the human world.

  6. Jess
    November 25, 2011 at 8:25 AM

    Out yesterday near dusk checking down near pond saw someone else out too. Also drove past back of businesses by trash cans. Nothing. God bless

    • Mel
      November 25, 2011 at 11:40 AM

      Jess – I haven’t had a chance to thank you until now, but I have seen your updates. Thank you for all that you have done and are doing. Knowing that people like you are out there looking keeps me sane.

  7. November 25, 2011 at 9:16 AM

    I am so proud of you for keeping sane throughout all of this. Losing a dog is a nightmare and not too many people can face it so bravely. Your optimism is inspiring. Hopefully today will be the day!

    • Mel
      November 25, 2011 at 11:39 AM

      Thanks Kristine. I don’t know if I’ve kept sane throughout all of this, but letting go and trusting that things will work out as they are meant to is better than thinking I can be everywhere and find her on my own.

  8. November 25, 2011 at 9:38 AM

    It’s so hard not to try to control everything, especially something so important. Good for you for letting go a little, trusting that others are there to help.

    • Mel
      November 25, 2011 at 11:38 AM

      It really, really is Edie. I have to let go a little or it will drive me crazy. There are people looking now and I and Dawn will be going out again in an hour or so.

  9. Catherine Katt
    November 25, 2011 at 9:56 AM

    Hang in there. I have hope she will be found soon. Such a beautiful dog may have been taken in by someone, don’t you think? My heart goes out to you.

    • Mel
      November 25, 2011 at 11:37 AM

      Thanks Catherine. Unfortunately, I doubt she’s been taken in because she won’t approach strangers. but, she is out there and someone will see her eventually.

  10. Dennis DeBruin
    November 25, 2011 at 10:08 AM

    I wanted to tell all of you a story about a minor happy thing that happened. The other day I was dropping flyers off at Rasmussen College and noticed two approximately 12-year old boys looking through the tall grass and trees between Rasmussen and I35E. I asked them what they were looking for and they explained that they had lost a $400.00 bottle of prescription medicine. They were quite distraught. I expressed my condolences and asked them also to look for Lady. As I was walking away from them, about 50 feet from where they were, something told me to look down and there, right in front of me, was the prescription bottle. The kids were beside themselves, I think it is the first time I have ever been hugged by 2 12-year old boys. So, Lady, whereever you are, there are two boys that will be looking for you, as that was what I asked them to do in return. I suspect it was you that told me to look down at that exact moment. 🙂

  11. November 25, 2011 at 11:06 AM

    I’m so sorry Lady is still on the lamb. I think of you guys all the time and hope for the best possible resolution to this situation.

  12. November 25, 2011 at 11:12 AM

    I’ve been monitoring all of this helplessly from afar with hope and trepidation. For what it’s worth, I lost my exceptionally fearful dog Molly two weeks after I adopted her from a local rescue (many years ago). She bolted out the door on Halloween night and was missing for 13 days. Although on a much smaller scale, we did everything you are doing. I lived in an enormous apartment complex off a very busy street in a shopping district. There was no way in hades that Molly was coming back on her own. The very few sightings I had of her running through the woods or circling the dumpster in the McDonald’s parking lot kept me from losing my mind. Well, that and the prayers. They kept me from losing hope. Since I knew the general area of where she was, we only left one live trap in the woods. I baited it with cheese, hot dogs and raw steak, but somehow, if she was eating it (and I now know she was), she always eluded the trap door. I’d sit in the woods in the pitch dark every night listening for her footsteps. I’d have to wait over a week for her to even give me that. On the 13th day something felt different. I sat in the woods in the dark that night just like before, but this time the footsteps came closer until they were unbearably close. Then there was a miracle. Somehow – to this day I do not know – I was a very young inexperienced dog owner who desperately wanted her dog back – I had the presence of mind to ignore logic, and ignored my dog. Without uttering a sound, I got up and made my way out of the woods without turning back. Inexplicably, Molly followed close behind. Then as I cleared the edge of the trees, she started bumping the backs of my knees with her nose – yet I still ignored her. Once my apartment building was in sight and there was some light from a street lamp, I quietly knelt in my place, and as if the previous 13 days had been nothing but a bad dream, Molly rounded and faced me, and reciprocated in a play bow. I called to her in a playful voice and she leaped into my arms. I have no idea how I stopped shaking long enough to get her martingale and leash on. But I did and we walked home. She was dirty and wet, but in remarkable health, physically and emotionally.

    I have never told that story to anyone but my immediate family and the rescue volunteers and it was hard to write, but I couldn’t keep it to myself any longer.

    Lady is out there and she is resilient. She is probably not as terrified as you imagine because she’s found an excellent place to hide – and yet can still be aware of your (and others that are familiar to her) voice and presence (no matter once or twice a day). She has no reason to feel abandoned. She is eating something. She’s just not hungry or cold or bored enough to come out yet. She will get up the nerve, when she feels it’s safe. She is smart. Keep praying. I will, too. 🙂

    • Mel
      November 25, 2011 at 11:36 AM

      Elizabeth – Thank you for this. That you would share your story with me when I most needed it is so powerful. Your story gives me hope. I know you understand the constant ups and downs of searching for Lady. It can be quite disheartening and discouraging and at times quite hopeful too. I know people are praying and that gets me through this. I hope that I have a happy ending soon too. It’s been almost a full week now since Lady disappeared, but your story tells me that no matter the time, there is hope. Thank you.

    • November 25, 2011 at 3:23 PM

      Thank you for sharing Molly’s story. I’m sure it will encourage many people besides Mel when they read it here.

      I’m astounded that you knew the right thing to do when Molly came near. It’s amazing what we don’t know we know.

  13. November 25, 2011 at 12:04 PM

    Hi Y’all,

    We are far away in the southeast and unable to help search, but we send dog and Human prayers your way.

    Hawk aka BrownDog

  14. November 25, 2011 at 2:31 PM

    My grandmother used to say that my grandfather chased her until she caught him. I realize it’s a silly family joke, but I hope that it’ll apply here – that you’ll chase Lady until she catches you. Take care of yourself during all of this… I’m glad you were able to take some time yesterday to recharge a bit. *hugs*

  15. Sue
    November 25, 2011 at 2:47 PM

    Sooooo…how did she get out of the house…yard?

  16. Cindy
    November 25, 2011 at 3:56 PM

    Hi Mel, Lady will be home before you know it. Positive thoughts are the only way to think. And as far as the cat goes….he’ll get over it. Take care.

  17. Tina Emanuel
    November 25, 2011 at 7:30 PM

    I hope & pray that Lady has been found by the time you read this post. Please continue to update us when you can. We have dogs also & I just can’t imagine what I would do if this were to happen. My family & I will be praying for Lady’s safe return soon.

    • Mel
      November 26, 2011 at 7:15 AM

      Not yet! But hoping!

  18. November 25, 2011 at 7:34 PM

    Sending positive thoughts your way! 🙂

    Woofs & hugs, ❤

    ~Bailey (Yep, I'm a girl!)

    • Mel
      November 26, 2011 at 7:14 AM

      Thanks Bailey! I hope those positive thoughts work!

  19. Toni
    November 28, 2011 at 9:23 PM

    This story breaks my heart. I would be devastated if my Lucy was lost. I am in the Eagan area daily and will keep my eyes open. I have the phone numbers and am ready if need be. Lady and her safe return will be in my prayers …

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