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Dogs, Daisy and Worrying About Loss


I’ll just be honest. I’m a bit of a worrier sometimes.

I worry about my business – “Can I grow it as big as I want it to be someday?”.
I worry about my dogs – “Are they getting enough attention? Am I feeding them the right food?”.
I worry about my mom – “What if something happens and I am not there to help?”

But lately, I’ve been worrying about Daisy.
No. No. She’s fine. But, she is almost 7 years old. And now. I worry about her getting old and not being with me some day. It makes me sad to think about it, but I do.

Daisy

Perhaps it’s the fact that we’ve been through so much together. Or, that I’ve worked so hard to give her a life filled with love and fun to make up for all that she went through before I got her. Or, maybe it’s because of how much she has taught me about working with a fearful dog. Or, maybe it’s because she just so happens to be one of those very special dogs that touches your soul in ways you didn’t expect.

Either way, it causes me to worry. How will I deal with her not being there anymore?

So I am wondering… Do you have a special dog or cat in your life? And if you do, do you ever worry about what your life will be like with out them?

  1. July 11, 2010 at 7:39 PM

    Special pets and loss is a good topic. It was 7 years ago that my sweet dog became too sick and weak to enjoy herself. The decision to end her life was heart breaking. She was a beautiful, always happy and devoted dog-friend to me through all my good times and tough times. I still have photos of her and when I see them, I am truly comforted to know that she was part of my life and gave me many fun times to remember. She taught me love by giving and receiving. This lesson is still with me today.

    • Mel
      July 11, 2010 at 9:35 PM

      Thanks for your response Catherine. I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure that even though time has passed you still remember all the joy you had from your wonderful dog.
      I know I will always hold Daisy as special, but I am lucky enough to still have her here. I think perhaps your response reminded me not to worry about what will come, but to enjoy the time I have with her. Thank you.

  2. July 12, 2010 at 5:33 AM

    We have no favorites in our dog kingdom. Unless his name starts with Ty. There I said it. And I worry about him not being here some day, too. He’s 5 1/2 … but Shar-Pei generally don’t have a long life expectancy. Buster will be around long after Ty passes to become my favorite.

    • Mel
      July 12, 2010 at 7:03 AM

      Ron – I laughed at your humor and appreciated your comments on Ty (and Buster). I’m glad I am not the only one who worries. I forgot that Shar-Pei have a lower life expectancy than other breeds. I wonder why? They’re such awesome dogs.
      Thank you for your comments. They sure do worm their way into our hearts don’t they?

  3. July 12, 2010 at 3:38 PM

    I try not to worry too much about. But the thought sometimes crosses my mind. Usually while reading other people’s stories of how they cope with a loss of their favorite pet, or stories like this.

    Kenzo (3 yr) is special because we have experienced a lot together. We got him as a pup. But he was also my first dog, and thereby Kenzo gave birth to the dog owner in me. He changed my life. He inspired me to a lot. Like blogging. Helping shelter dogs. And also to adopt Viva for example.

    Viva (6 yr) we only have for 4 months now. She is learning me how to improve the life of an unhealthy and fearful dog. She is also special.

    I never had to cope with the loss of a dog before. But in such a “worry moment” I know I will be heart broken.

    And in Kenzo’s case, because he changed my life, yes, life will not be the same anymore. It just won’t.

  4. kimhalligan1
    July 12, 2010 at 3:55 PM

    Hi Mel, Same here. Im a worry wart too. Having 6 dogs between the yrs 4-6 yrs I know there will be a lot of heartbreak in my future. I’m enjoying my dogs tremendously right now. Having a fearful dog, Stanley , my fav, I think its apparent to many, I understand may shorten his life . I worry constantly about making the right choices when the time comes for each of my dogs to “cross that bridge”. Lots to consider when you have a multilpe dog home. Care, comfort, costs, & the consideration of the other dogs & my family are just some of them. I take comfort in that some day we will all be reunited with all our pets. ” If dogs don’t go to heaven then when I die, I want to go where they go. “

    • Mel
      July 12, 2010 at 4:57 PM

      Thank you for your thoughtful response Kim. I am enjoying mine too. A lot.
      And I too, worry about the fear and stress impacting Daisy’s health and shortening her life. In fact, you pretty much summed up a lot of the feelings I have been having lately. I guess many of us worry about all of those things when it comes to our dogs. It’s a darn shame they can’t be with us longer, but knowing we will be reunited again later helps! 🙂

  5. Betty
    July 12, 2010 at 5:34 PM

    Your questions tug at my heart strings & brings tears to my eyes….
    I brought my green-eyed red pup home 14 yrs ago. We went through a lot, lost my home, we had to separate for a while, I was a basket case. She contracted Lyme & delt with it. Separation anxiety struck after her 10th b-day then Shortly before her 11th she was diagnosed with IMHA, it kills 50% within 2 wks…we fought it together. On 6/16 she got sick & within a matter of hours was so weak she could not walk…She was telling me it was time…Again, I was not ready to loose her, but I complied with her wishes & said goodbye to my sweet Bailey…Its never easy, they trust us to ease their pains. All you can do is enjoy & love them while they are here with you. They are a gift, unfortunately they are here for a short time, but in our hearts for ever.

    • Mel
      July 12, 2010 at 5:43 PM

      Betty I am so sorry for your loss. Bailey sounds like she was an amazing dog with a strong will to love. Your story brought tears to my eyes. You are right, of course, we do need to just enjoy them while they are here with us. Thank you for sharing your story.

  6. July 14, 2010 at 11:11 AM

    I got my first dog Sammy almost 9 years ago when I bought my first home. I’m still in my home and I still have my Sammy. He is getting up there in years and is very healthy and I’m so grateful. I do worry about him getting older. I can’t imagine my life without him, it is too painful. He is so sweet and follows me everywhere. He cries when he can’t come with me when I go shopping, it’s too hot right now. He loves to cuddle on the bed with me and loves his head being scratched. He treats my cats so well and is like a big brother. I got him a dog brother 4 years ago and they get along great.
    It will hurt deeply when he goes, I don’t even want to think about it.

    • Mel
      July 14, 2010 at 4:21 PM

      Sammy sounds like a wonderful and loyal friend Carol. I can understand why you don’t even want to think about it. Most days I don’t either. Perhaps I was feeling a bit melancholy the day I wrote this post. I try not to dwell on my life without Daisy too often. Like you, it would be too much to bear.

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